Monday, July 19, 2010

The best advice this year


“Take it from a guy with 5 kids. You hope they grow up and move away someday but you want the wife to stay”

This was some great advice a few weeks back from a twitter friend as I was having a bit of an internal debate about taking a trip with just the wife while our son is gone on a trip of his own with Scouts. The son was a little mad that we would consider going on a cool mini-vacation without him. This was not something in his 12 years of life that we have ever done.

The trip idea is to celebrate our 15th year of married. Truly the advice was a wake up reminder to me that yes the time invested with son is of paramount importance. At the same time, the investment in our husband/wife relationship deserves the same attention. After all, it is our intent to spend the rest of our days on earth together.

How many couples focus so much on the kids that when they grow up and leave they are left with no common interests and goals? How many couples after years of kids no longer know how to woo each other and to enjoy time alone?

So as you may have guessed I booked the trip!

What about you?

Do you take time to woo your wife?

Are you seeking opportunities to spend time together and share common interests?
I suggest we do these things now before there is any chance of growing separate and being left to re-learn each other once the children are gone.

Personally, I know great adventures are in store for Michelle and I. The best is yet to come!

2 comments:

  1. Hooray for you! And your wife too! Ask your son if you are invited on his honeymoon when he gets married. LOL! Where did you decide to go for your special anniversary trip?

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  2. Wow, this sounds like my life with the names changed. Maria and I just celebrated 15 years July 1 and still have not figured out where we are going to celebrate, Italy or Jerusalem are the top so far. We also just sent our 12 year old to scout camp and got him back in one piece. Congratulations on your remarkable feats. Enjoyed your thoughts on the matters.

    Jason

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